You’re Such a Tool!

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“Feminine traits are called weaknesses. People joke about them; fools ridicule them; but reasonable persons see very well that those traits are just the tools for the management of men, and for the use of men for female designs.” — Immanuel Kant, Anthropology from a Pragmatic Point of View, Southern Illinois University Press 1978, originally published in 1798

One thing our society struggles with as it continually fails feminism’s cultural fitness tests is the silly notion that men and women are “equal” and thus we are essentially coming at each-other from the same point of view regarding our interactions with the opposite sex. This is the wrong way of thinking. We are not “blank slates” who are different merely because of society’s externally imposed social constructs upon us.

In fact, anyone who believes in evolution would scoff at the idea of men and women being essentially the same. Natural Selection is what “evolves” us. Sharks mate with the fastest swimmers and the sharks best able to feed themselves. By selecting those with the genes which display these traits, they continually evolve to become better swimmers and better predators. Animals evolve to do the tasks which they are best suited for. Thus, the sharks of today are likely “better” sharks than the sharks of 10,000 years ago as the genes of those best at survival continually get passed on more often than those who fail to survive.

Between the sexes, we also evolve to do the tasks which we are best suited for. You can see that men and women are physically different, each being designed for what they do best. Certainly there are some social constructs that society imposes upon men and women, but they are based on our biological natures, not upon the blank slate.

In women’s case, their entire bodies are designed for giving birth and caring for children. They have wide hips to give birth and have breasts to feed children with. Note that it is also these traits – women’s “curves” – that are a large part of what men find sexually attractive in women. It is their “reproductive features” we find attractive. Further, even a woman’s mind has evolved to make her more suitable for rearing children, thus a woman’s “multi-tasking brain” is more suitable to care for children – or to do other tasks while also caring for children. But it goes even further than this multi-tasking feature. Women are somewhere in between that of a man and a child. Often times, the men of old observed women were merely children of a larger growth:

Women are directly adapted to act as the nurses and educators of our early childhood, for the simple reason that they themselves are childish, foolish, and short-sighted — in a word, are big children all their lives, something intermediate between the child and the man, who is a man in the strict sense of the word. Consider how a young girl will toy day after day with a child, dance with it and sing to it; and then consider what a man, with the very best intentions in the world, could do in her place.– Arthur Schopenhauer, On Women

Women have mentally “evolved” to be something intermediate between the child and the man. We have all heard that women are more emotional than men and are more “in tune with feelings” than men. And this is correct, for tell me, how do infants communicate except through the language of emotions and feelings? How does a baby indicate it needs to be fed? It is through the emotional response of crying – certainly not by saying, “Hey momma, bring those soft, round milk thingies over to my mouth.” Children communicate emotionally, and since women have evolved to become “better carers of children,” they have also evolved to be more in tune to the language of children, which is emotion.

We also often hear that girls mature faster than boys. This is also true, and to refer back to Schopenhauer again, he acknowledges this as well:

Man reaches the maturity of his reasoning and mental faculties scarcely before he is eight-and-twenty; woman when she is eighteen; but hers is reason of very narrow limitations. This is why women remain children all their lives, for they always see only what is near at hand, cling to the present, take the appearance of a thing for reality, and prefer trifling matters to the most important. Arthur Schopenhauer, On Women

The reason girls mature mentally before boys again goes back to their biological function as the bearers of children. Everywhere in nature, when an animal is physically capable of giving birth it is also mentally developed enough to care for its offspring – at least in the most primal of ways. This is also true of human females. When they reach puberty, they are mentally mature enough to give at minimum the basic care to an infant to keep it alive. Even though we don’t encourage girls to have children as soon as they reach puberty, we do see in our culture that adults begin to trust girls at the age of puberty for tasks such as babysitting, thus lots of girls in the 12 to 14 age group begin to earn some pocket money in this manner – they have become mentally mature enough to adequately do the task. Why does Schopenhauer indicate women reach the maturity of their reasoning and mental faculties at the age of eighteen? Well, what would be the evolutionary advantage to women growing out of this phase of relating to children and beyond it? There is none.

But then, what is it that men have evolved to become?

The first thing we have to realize is that everywhere in nature, the male is the sexual servant of the female.

“This goes down to the level of plants which have “male” and “female” parts.

The ripening of an egg, or ovum, is a time and energy intensive job, so the male is designed to be ready to fertilize that ovum when the female notifies him that she is “ready.”

In the rest of the natural world, females announce their readiness to the entire world with a variety of cues – smell being the most significant, but visual cues come in a close second.

When a female chimpanzee is in estrus, her genitals swell up and become a specific shade of bright pink. Jane Goodall observed one such female whose genitals could be seen from across a valley – nearly a mile or 2 away.


There is a species of fish in which the belly of the female turns a particular shade of red when she is gravid. A block of wood with the lower half painted that exact shade of red will drive males into a mating frenzy.

Smell is even more important. There are many species in which a female in heat gives off pheromones which are specific to that species which can be picked up by males as much as 5 miles away.” — Zenpriest

Men have evolved to become the best providers and protectors we can possibly be in order to meet the needs of the female – especially during her most vulnerable time, which is when she gets pregnant, gives birth, recuperates, and then raises the child until it becomes self-sufficient (ie. It can walk, talk and feed itself). This whole process takes about four years to complete, and then her rotating polyandry cycle kicks in and she discards the male in order to seek out a new man to repeat the cycle again. This is the primitive method of assuring genetic diversity amongst her offspring, which increases their overall chance of survival.

So aside from merely being sperm donors, men have also evolved into being the best at what we do – and these are also the things women find attractive in a man: our protecting and providing skills. We have developed upper body strength which is vastly superior to the female’s, and so it is tall, strong, broad shouldered men which women find sexually attractive. Men have developed linear thinking brains which help us figure out how to perform specific tasks as efficiently and productively as possible. No matter what men set out to do, aside from raising children, women cannot compete with men on a level playing field because we have evolved to best perform our tasks in order to make ourselves useful to women. Most women admit that they are sexually attracted to men who are more intelligent than they are – this does not mean that all men are are smarter than all women, but merely that each woman tends to seek out a man who has higher intelligence than she possesses.

But ultimately, men do all of these things in service of women, in the hopes of gaining – or maintaining – her favour. However, the kink in this plot is that women don’t actually “love” men, only gay men truly love men. Rather women love being loved. “Love” means different things to men and women.

“Women have no sympathy… And my experience of women is almost as large as Europe. And it is so intimate too. Women crave for being loved, not for loving. They scream at you for sympathy all day long, they are incapable of giving you any in return for they cannot remember your affairs long enough to do so.” — Florence Nightingale
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Think of a man as a stick in a woman’s hand – a tool which she uses for her own purposes. The woman with the biggest stick will fare better in society than women with smaller sticks – or especially women with no sticks at all. This is a further reason for women to give men fitness tests – to test how strong of a stick he is. If she finds him sufficiently strong, she will begin to conform herself around him, creating the illusion that she is his ideal mate so that he will begin to fall in love with her and thus become useful to her as a “tool.”
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This is one thing that men must always keep in mind in his dealings with women. For women, their love is parasitic – it is based upon what she gets from a man. But for men, their love is the host to the parasitic nature of the woman – it is based upon what he gives.

“When I started researching this book, I was prepared to rediscover the old saw that conventional femininity is nurturing and passive and that masculinity is self-serving, egotistical, and uncaring. But I did not find this. One of my findings here is that manhood ideologies always include a criterion of selfless generosity, even to the point of sacrifice. Again and again we find that ‘real’ men are those who give more than they take.” — David Gilmore in his 1990 book Manhood in the Making

Also, one must keep in mind that relationships don’t mean the same thing to women as they do to men. Relationships are a “tool” for women – they get things from it, or rather from the man. Women get over relationships far more easily than men do. They are never as deeply “in love” with a man as a man is in love with the woman. Men and women are polar opposites. We are two sides to the same coin, but those sides are not the same. Women have more emotions but they are shallower. Men have fewer emotions but they run deeper. In an evolutionary survival scenario, it makes sense too, that men would love women deeper than women would “love” men. It is a man’s deep love that will make him sacrifice his produced goods and even his life for the woman he loves. This rarely happens the other way around. While there is an evolutionary survival advantage for the female to lose interest in a man after completing her four year rotating polyandry cycle, there is no similar advantage for the man to lose interest. In fact, just the opposite. It is in both her and her offspring’s advantage to have the man still hopelessly in love with her, providing and protecting his brains out while she slyly seeks out her next suitable mate before giving the present “tool” his walking papers.

Everything a man does in a relationship is in her benefit. This is the basis of Briffault’s Law.

“The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place.” — Robert Briffault, The Mothers, I, 191

It is also important to note the corollaries to Briffault’s Law:

1 – Past benefit provided by the male does not provide for continued or future association.

2 – Any agreement where the male provides a current benefit in return for a promise of future association is null and void as soon as the male has provided the benefit (see corollary 1)

3 – A promise of future benefit has limited influence on current/future association, with the influence inversely proportionate to the length of time until the benefit will be given and directly proportionate to the degree to which the female trusts the male (which is not bloody likely).

Briffault’s Law is the reason the most important word a man must learn in his relationships with a woman is “No!” If a man keeps nothing for himself and simply gives it all to her, she has no reason to continue to associate with him. No matter what he does, it soon will become “What have you done for me lately?” He must keep the benefits he bestows upon her under his control, and learn to say no often, as she will naturally try to get him to pass them on to her. No, I won’t spend $100 for roses on Valentine’s Day. No, we’re not going to Hawaii for a vacation (unless you are paying, Toots!) No, you cannot move in with me. No, you cannot move in now that you’ve been evicted – that is what your girlfriend’s couch or your parent’s spare room is for. NO! We won’t get be getting married. No! You are not going on the pill so we can have bareback sex. No! No! No! No! No! NO!

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There were only a few thousand divorces annually in the mid-nineteenth century when divorce cost wives their children and Dad’s paycheck. This family stability began eroding as later nineteenth century divorce courts, under pressure from the rising feminist movement, began awarding child custody to mothers. — Daniel Amneus, The Case for Father Custody, p360

“Between 1870 and 1920 the divorce rate rose fifteenfold, and by 1924 one marriage out of seven ended in divorce” — James H. Jones, Alfred Kinsey: A Public/Private Life (New York: W. W. Norton, 1997), p.292.

Women’s attitude to men is easiest to understand by comparing it to our attitude towards a job. Whether we love our job or not, most of us think we must have one. We often think a bad job is better than not having a job at all. No matter how much we may love our job, we’ll jump ship and go with a better one if it’s offered. And no matter how good our job may have been for us in the past, if something happens that upsets us, the love has probably gone forever. We don’t ever think we are owed for the past.

For women, attracting a man and using him for her own designs is her job – it is how women survive.

What do women have jobs for? To entertain themselves while they aren’t working – The Predatory Female

Women never want to be without a “tool” in society, for it is through her man-tool that she accomplishes what she needs in society – thus, women are like monkeys and never let go of one branch until she has gotten hold of the next. This is why you usually find that at the end of her relationship with a particular tool, er, man, there is always another man hanging around somewhere in the wings. Female “independence” is an illusion. What women’s independence actually means is that they want the freedom to change from one tool to the next without consequences. Men would view independence in a much different manner.

In fact, Buddhism acknowledges the three phases women go through of using men as “tools” for their own designs during their lives:

Women have the “five obstacles” (inability to become anything great) and the “three followings” (follows first the father, then the husband, then the son).Buddha – from Selected Writings of Nichiren

In her youth, a woman gains her power through her father – he is the “tool” that serves her and represents her in society. In adulthood, she gains power through her husband, who spends his life’s energy providing for her and the offspring they produce together. In her old age, she gains her power through her son. In each case, she uses a man as her tool to deal with society.

I can certainly attest to the last one about the son with my own mother. Since my father died a few years ago, it is now me who my mother uses to navigate life. When she has a problem, she comes to me to deal with it. If she suspects the mechanic at the shop is trying to rip her off, it is me who goes there to talk with him. When she needs to make a financial decision, it is me who she seeks advice from and who she hands over the authority to make ultimate decisions. Since she lost my father as her “tool,” she transferred the responsibility to me. She is not independent as a man would be. I’m not upset about it. It is the natural order of life. And since she didn’t stuff me into a daycare, allowing strangers to raise me, but rather did a good job for me as a true mother when I was young – nor did she selfishly destroy our family with divorce, but stayed with my father for 48 years (and I’m sure not all of those years were easy ones), I am willing to let her use me as her “tool” in her old age because she deserves it.

We are failing feminism’s cultural fitness tests because we are not asserting our authority and telling women, “NO! You can’t use me as your tool for free. We are humans, not monkeys.” And since men’s love is “the host” for women’s “parasitic love,” it is essential that the host leads the parasite, rather than the other way around. When the parasite leads, it destroys both the host and the parasite, but when the host leads, both organisms can survive.

NO! Learn to say it, and learn to say it often.

You don’t even have to be rude about it. You could also say “NO MA’AM!”

Women are as independent as a tropical fern in a greenhouse in Iceland.

If the men “leave” the women will follow, because female “independence” is an illusion.

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